What once 'WAS', now 'IS'... A journey from bein ma BF to ma BFF

My internet escapades turned out to be fruitful for me in more than one way... I have made some extremely close friends in the past... Today I am goin to write about one relationship that took birth in the online world and soon transformed into more than just a 'virtual' friendship...

This isn't some online datin saga that I am goin to write about, it's definitely more than that...

I dunno how many of you (the one's who know me personally I mean) know this; but here goes... Bipin (the guy i dated for 3 yrs until somewhere in Feb this yr) and me met online!!! Yeah.. I know!!! (I can almost see some of you cuppin your mouths, some gapin in horror, etc etc) A few of you already knew this fact and I hadn't told the others since I wasn't sure how people would react to it...

Bipin and I met online somewhere in 2003 I believe, I was freshly into Xavier's and he was still in Ruia then...

My version: We met in a Yahoo chatroom and clicked... However, the click wasn't loud enough for us to sustain it... We did add each other, but we hardly used to chat ever (that's thanks to me and my perennial invisible mode option) I never had him catch my attention long enough to wanna chat with him again the next time... And ever since he told me his name was Bipin as opposed to Stephen (his nick said so) I was a lil turned off... Alongwith the name Bipin came a plethora of stereotypical characteristics... I pictured him as one of these 'galli ka goondas'... Lol...

His version: He had added my friend Preeti Baruah on hi5 (which at that point of time was as big as orkut and FB today) Yeah!!! I know Preeti must have almost fallen off her chair on readin this one line.. LOL... He apparently saw me on her friend's list and randomly sent me a friend request... I accepted and we started sendin each other msgs randomly sometimes... And that's when we exchanged our yahoo IM ids and started chatting...

Now, we still don't really know which version is reliable... However, the point at which we stand today, it all seems irrelevant...

Am sure till now, by now ur convinced tat am still hung up on the guy... And depression is causin me to lose it!!! HELL NO!!! Tats the last thing happenin to me!!!

Last nite there was a miracle tat transpired when all of you were perhaps busy snorin in ur beds (respectively i mean, unless there was more than one miracle) Bipin and I met up last nite, only to find out that we were both respectively over each other... I found closure last nite... Absolute closure (Sorry to disappoint u Diksha)

We spoke and we laughed and we cried (well, atleast I did, tears of joy)... I was soooo happy to be connecting with this man again... N then we told each other about the respective better halves in our lives and incidentally how we started datin our respective partners on the same day (N I know I will have to keep remindin him about anniversaries and monthaversaries)

For me, this is like a sign, that this is how it's meant to be... I can't wait to speak to his chick... She seemed wary at first, but is gettin comfortable with the idea of him and me bein friends....

I seem to have met the perfect guy (He is adorable)... But then again, am wary given the fact I have seen men leave my life even before I can say the word 'Zyzybalooba' (What?)

Bottomline is this:

• My workscene looks good...(I love my work hubby Bhavik)
• My family life is gettin better (Spent a good amount of time wid mom n dad when they were down here, hav Tony and fly stayin wid me these days, had lunch wid Tess, Minty and Sheena the other day, etc etc etc)
• My love life seems to be at the beginnin of somethin new and real (I am extremely fond of this man; pray it works out)
• Bipin, who is a man, who has known me for the longest and closest that anyone can, has come back wid a bang and is turnin out to be BFF material if not BF material!!! I am lovin it!!!

What's college without ma girlfriends...

I must start out writin this post with an apology to the millions I may forget to mention here... Pls dont hate me... My memory fails me sometimes!!!

This is an ode to all the women who made life in Xavier's easier (or sometimes tougher) for me!!!

Pls note - FM stands for Favourite Memory

ANDRIA: I dunno wat i wud do without the woman... I cant think of college life widout thinkin of her... My girl.. I still have her no. saved under that name on my cellphone...

FM: There are a million, but I had to choose this one... Walkin down that Sterling street tryin to do wat u remember!!!

VIVEKA: She's ma soul sister... One year wid her and I knew Xavier's as a totally different world... She changed ma life, as so did she change me... I miss hangin wid her!! Make a trip soon woman!!!

FM: The towel ramp show at Veka's place and the Autorickshaw dance!!!

JANICE: She was my pillar of strength... She stood by me when I needed her the most... I still remember the lengthy discussions we used to have... Nothin frivolous about any of our conversations..

FM: Goin over to her place to discuss our notes and endin up on a conversation bout our future plans...

NATASHA MONTY: Good things do come in small packages... She is livin proof for it... I owe it to Andu for havin introduced her n me.. This is one woman I am still in touch wid.. N i love her for it!!! Thanks nats (ma dancin partner)

FM: The back rub in the train.. This one has to win hands down!!!

TINA: This woman knows how to get her way... Zingy and zestful, she's ma mallu sis... I love u girl... A dancer by nature, she sure knows how to live life kingsize...

FM: Spendin those 3 days at ur place.. We were upto a lotta shyt, but I love bein around u all the time!!

SOHINI: This dynamite met me really late in ma college life, but we've held on even a year after we really started socializin... A woman who knows how to speak her mind, u cant definitely mess wid her!!!

FM: Definitely the farewell nite and post that the nite out at Akshata's!!!

AYUMI: I never liked her in the beginnin... N later, I never liked people who didnt like her? My sister from another mother (doesnt rhyme I know, but who cares).... Oh, I also remember us beginnin to co-write a book!! Still have the manuscripts from all those PEARL classes??

FM: Discussin the characters of our yet to be published book and all those dance sessions!!

SANCHA: I met this woman in my 3rd and her 1st year in Xavier's... We grew to love each other the way we did... I miss u girl!!!

FM: Her first day of college and our Ambattha trip!!!

NEHA: Who would I travel wid had it not been for her?? Lolz... But there is lot more to our relationship... Common friends = Common gossip... She also introduced me to Ruju...Love u for tat girl!!!

FM: Strugglin to get into the 8 o'clock fast every morn n searchin for tat Byculla loser guy!!!

RUJU: Ma Gujju Ruju made the one hour commute to college easier for me... Laughter galore... Wid her impromptu 'SALE SALE SALE' ads... A gem of a person... Worked wid me on the college mag as well as all those inter-collegiate fests...

FM: Those dance practices for Malhar.... LOlzzz... N all those lazy afternoons in the CC office!!! Lets not forget the day we got stuck at Wadala as well...

SALOME: I met Salome through Andria and I instantly loved this woman...This chubby sweetheart I have always treated like a younger sibling... Love havin her around... Wud give anythin to see her smile...

FM: Those singin sessions in the train and tat one nite out at ur place where we all got zonked!!!

KETKI: Met this woman in FYJC, n we hit it off almost instantly... I wonder where she is these days?? Any clues people??

FM: Goin to crossroads wid Ketki n a few other chicka friends

AMEETA: Woman full of joy... This stick-thin woman (no offense meant there girl) is a bundle of bubbliness... Enjoyed the Ambattha trips wid her and am lucky to have Akshata as our mediator now!!!

FM: Those random Marathi classes in the JC and our Ambattha trip!!The Ambattha reunion wid Ternan!!!

MARTINA: A dog lover, jus like me, this woman is as soft spoken as can be... She and Ameeta share their love for terrible Marathi.... Heheheheh

FM: The Security bash that got ruined coz of inadequate plannin, but then we did have a great time at Boats and the Ambattha reunion wid Ternan!!!

MUKTI: This is a woman with a lot of ZING... She added that spice to everythin around her... Rite from our 'RICKSHAW' song to those fun Hindi lecs wid Asha, we seemed to spread cheer wherever we went... N how can i forget Sancha, her n me posin as Cha-me-li!!!

FM: Cha-me-li!!! Need say more?

SATI a.k.a SNEHAL SHETTY: This tiny lil thing has the energy of a nuclear bomb inside her... A brilliant leader by inherent nature, she was a lot of fun to work wid and was a good role model... Wonder how she will react if she gets to know I have started my own events company now?? Proud of me girl?

FM: Sati dressed up as the idli girl in that stupid play we put up at Sydenham!!!

ATIYA: A woman who knows what she wants, when she wants it and how to get it... Woo hoo... Go power girl... I love hangin wid this girl... Opinionated for the right reasons, she is someone to reckon wid...

FM: Workin on Umang...

VALLARY: This slender beauty is capable of some serious damage, especially when it comes to dancing... She is someone I can talk to, especially about dancing... Keep those dancin shoes on baby...

FM: The dance sessions at my place wid Paul Paul n her!!

NIDHI: AICUF played an important role in the formative years of my college... She was amongst the 1st people to talk to me!!! Thanks girl!!!

FM: She teachin me the ghoomar!!!

AILEEN: She is and was and will always be my role model.. Right from the time I met her in Chennai as a full time AICUFer I loved bein in her company...

FM: Our trip to Manor, was it?

MARY: My sis in crime on the Chennai trip; she, joel (now Br.Joel) and me had a ball!!! She is a woman with a heart of gold.. Could never imagine her angry!!!

FM: Seein the joy on her face when we visited her home in Chennai and met her parents

STEPHANIE: She was the first friend I had in college... Met her durin the orientation... Fell in love wid her instantly... One helluva crazy woman!!!

FM: Takin tat bus to Wadala to go watch some crazy movie in the dome theatre, jus coz we won free tickets!!!

SHAMARA: She, Steph and I were inseperable initially... I loved callin this chick n talkin to her!!! A woman of substance, you feel the warmth when ur in her presence!!!

FM: The long talks on the phone!!! N then meetin up durin Malhar rehearsals for the play!!

PREETI: This woman literally saved our lives.. She gave us a house when we needed it the most (26/7 floods) LOLZ.. This sweetheart here is one gem of a person.. Love u girl...

FM: Traditional day fiesta at Leopolds, wid Aditi, Andu n me!!!

SHARMIN: She may have spent only one year in Xavier's; but I think she is a true blooded Xavierite at heart... Love this whacky girl, inspite of all the scratches and bruises she leaves me wid!!!

FM: The wild arse house parties at her place... Loved every one of em!!!

SONIA: This mallu girl here has the bestest hugs to give everytime she sees me!! My huggable baby... She's one wreck when she's in high spirits tho!!! Lolz!!!

FM: Goin ova to my family friend's place coz she needed to pee.. LOLZ... Andu surely remembers this one!! N her talkin to herself outside PIZZA HUT and the people inside lookin petrified!!!

MOUSHMI: All those long (sometimes shorter) conversations we had, in the foyer, in the SSL office... I remember them all... Our joy when we spoke about animals, the media, etc etc etc!!! We still share all that... Thankfully

FM: Us workin on Arun's project together!!!

EESHA: Ma sister from JC college, tis woman was my objectified definition of 'tongue in cheek'...Never afraid of speakin her mind, she was one strong woman(literally n otherwise)

FM: Eesha gettin drunk on Irish Coffee at Mocha!!! Lolz!!! That was impossible!!!

VAIDEHI: This small lil powerhouse always seemed to know the right answers... Quite a bookworm, I would say.. She was really nonchalant bout the rest of the world (barrin friends ofcourse)

FM: Goin to Goregaon, all of us, jus to chill!!! Was some random fun!!!

I THINK AM GONNA BREAK THE LIST UP HERE... ITS GETTIN A LIL TOO LONG TO PUT INTO ONE... N ALL U WOMEN I DIDNT WRITE BOUT,DIDNT MEAN TO LEAVE YOU OUT..MADE LIFE SO MUCH BETTER FOR A WRECK LIKE ME!!!

Tabiness unveiled!!!

So Tabi writes all these posts... Says she has the key to the world of Tabiness...Tells you about her family, ex bf, friends, male BFFs and Jecky too!!! But who is Tabi?? Lets try n analyze that lil thought for awhile!!!

Name : Tabitha Thomas

A.K.A.: Tabi, Tabsi, Tabz, Tabutai, n the latest one is 'T'; but 'T' is a patented name, so you cant think of using it for me now!!!

Age: Currently 21, turnin 22 this year

Relationship status: At the brink of a newly formed relationship (No more questions pls)

Educational Qualifications: B.A. in Sociology from St.Xavier's College, Mumbai

Future plans:

Education:

• Wanna pursue my Post Graduate Diploma in Event Management

Work wise:

• Have started my own venture titled 'Evolution Events and Promotions' wid Mr.Bhavik;
• Another venture plan wid a certain company
• Handlin PR and Marketing for a website called www.india-nightlife.com

So wat is a typical 'Tabi' day like??

There is no definite answer to that (and this suits me the best coz i hate monotony). Every day is different and unique... After I left college, post my graduation, I haven't really had a routine of sorts (except for the short times that I held 9-5 kinda jobs)

How is today gonna be? (29th May, 2009)
I just got back from Dombivali today morn (had gone there to visit the cousins) and am as tired as hell rite now (Perhaps I look as hell as well; lemme check)

I plan on goin back to Dombivali in the afternoon again, since my dearest friend Samip wants to get a tattoo done from another friend of mine who has his workshop at Dombivali!!! So up n down it is for me...

Tia (my neice) woke up cryin today (she saw a bad dream) and was quite pleased to see me back home (she was missin me awwwwwwwwwww) !!! So now am sittin wid her (alongside me she sits) and helpin her out wid her colourin book...

Bhavik bhai will call me in sometime (am sure) and we will discuss work (as usual) and plan things... (we plan really well... So when u need a weddin planner, make sure its us!!)

I will go on to talk to the new Mr. RB in my life (heeheehee)... I love the feelin of bein wid someone and having someone to be wid u!!! So will talk to RB until he can (he works)... What's great is that we both r scorpions!!!

Random facts:

• My previous relationship was a 3 yr relationship that didn't work out (for whatever reasons); but luckily for us we are still in touch!!!
• I have been stubborn (ever since I can remember) and my sis used to call me 'Terror Tabi!!!
• I used to write a diary...Haven't been regular recently!!!
• I am missin spendin time wid Hiral (classmate from school) , cant believe she is gettin married this yr!!!
• Andria, my BFF from college, is leavin Mumbai this year... Am sooooo sad!!! Am gonna miss tat girl... She's angry wid me (for all the rite reasons); but I am just unable to get myself to face her!!!
• Diksha is still my fav BFF!!! (Yipeeeeeeeeee)
  
• I miss the whacky times spent wid Kavita, Tasha, Ron, Frames, Foehn, Nitin, Nidhi!!!
  
• A pigeon has laid 2 eggs in the grill of the hallroom window!!!
• Dad's busy rearrangin things in the house ( he loves doin that )
• I am plannin on readin (continuing the book is more like it) 'The World Is Flat'
• I wanna take a trip (mebbe wid RB)
  
• Trixie darlin is happy to c me home!!!1 Yeaaaaaaaaaaahhhh!!! I missed her a lot man!!!
• I feel the need to go to Xavier's soon again... Missin college...
• I have gotten back to bloggin wid a vengeance!!!
• When it comes to jeans, my loyalties lie wid Pepe...
• I wanna get more piercings on my ear (I have 5 on each ear and one nose piercing already)
  

I am runnin outta things to say rite now.. Haven't slept the whole nite!!! So am sleeeeeepyyyy... Goodnite/morn for now!!! Cya later!!!

My Male BFF !!!!

Everyone writes about their friends or about their families...Today am gonna write bout a man who makes it to both the categories for me!!!

He is definitely the first of his kind in my life!!! He is my first ever 'Girlfriend'... I cant call him anythin else!!! Coz here is a man who understands me better than most of my chicka friends... I can talk to him through the nite... Bytch bout the women creatin havoc in my life... Hug him when I need a big manly hug.... Have him snuggle up to me sometimes when he needs me to pamper him!!! But all in all he is my 'dadda' in disguise!!! Constantly lookin out for me, like no one has ever b4!!!

He is one man who I can sock in the face when am angry and who I can blabber out the darkest confessions to knowin that he will never eva tell anyone (even if he does, he wont give out my identity; or so i hope!!! Grrrrrrrrrrr)

He is definitely my BFF... N for those of you girls who do not wat categories of Male BFFs u need to have, I am gonna give u a small run through the categories... Every female needs to have male friends like these!!!

1. The macho man - He is the kinda man who will take care of u... No matter where u r... No more eve teasin atleast when he's around!!! Constantly flexin those muscles, he will look like ur very own personal bouncer

2. The poet - He is the man who is in touch wid his emotional side and has no issues with emoting himself.. This is the kinda man who will write lovely poetry for u (yea, men can do that for friends too) He will keep u on ur toes constantly and make sure u always know wats on the Top 10 list of Crosswords!!!

3. The sensitive man - He is like the guy who you can run to when u need a listenin ear!!! He is there for u, wid a handkerchief ready!!! Love these kinds.. Personal favourites!!!

4. The techie - He is the guy who is gonna take care of all those innumerable virus infections on your computer.. He is gonna answer all your technology related queries even if its 4 in the morn!!!

5. The mechanic - This is a guy who is good wid cars.. he will be reminding u bout the last time you changed your car's oil... Etc etc etc.. You get the point.. Dont u??

6. The biker - This is the man who gets ur whacky side out.. You can go on long bike rides wid the man... This is a man who doesnt care wat ur hair looks like, if its helmet hair that u've got!!! Actually helmet hair is better!!!

7. The softie - He is the man who will do the romantic things that you wanna do wid a man (excludin the sex)... You can go for quiet lil dinners.. Discuss philosophy ova wine... (If luck has rite, he mite be gay... so no sex for u here girl)

8. The BFF - For all those of you who dont know wat it stands for, BFF means 'Best Friend Forever'.. A BFF then is someone who has a lil of all these qualities rolled into one, or atleast knows how to make u feel like the center of their world, when u dont hav a lover to do so for u!!!

To all my male friends, this is my way of saluting you and all the times you guys have been there for me!!! Love ya'll!!!